True Friends

It has been hard for me to discern between real vs. fake friends in this small town. Some people just want to be my friend because of my husband and some hate me because of the same reason! I try to weed out the users and posers but they can be tricky. There is nothing worse than someone telling me "hey I love you girl!" just to stab me in the back the first chance they get. Luckily I am not the type of person that gossips too much, nor to I say negative things to others. I try to be the encourager of a group. I build people up because in my past I have torn someone down with my tongue and I felt horrible about it. It made me feel unworthy to live because I was so vile. You know how girls get together and start being catty about another girl that isn't there? Yep I did that and the other girl found out and cried. So NEVER again. I don't say anything about a person that I would not say to their face. It's really the only way to be if you want to sleep with a clear conscience. So when these so-called friends of mine try to bury me with their catty remarks I just write them off. My true friends side of my friends list is rather skimpy but the ones on that list are so strong and worth my time. They make me a better person. They let me vent without judging me for my uncharitable thoughts. And they laugh with me. We laugh and cry and hug and build each other up. A true friend is someone who makes you a better person just by knowing them. That works both ways. If you want to be a good friend to them, help to bring out the best in them. I love my true friends.